I’m an introvert. I like being around people, but it drains me SO fast. Also, I’m shy/kinda socially awkward when I first meet people, so that tires me out even more.
And I like going places and doing things. My husband and I are always on the lookout for something new to do, a new adventure. Add that on top of the introverted-ness, and I get tired quick.
On top of that, you may have regular life tasks, family and relationship obligations, work, taking care of your house, your spouse and/or kids if you have them, and more. Life can get chaotic – I’ve said it before and I’ll probably say it again.
Self-care is important, you know this. But how do we make time for ourselves when we have so much going on and so much to do? I’ll admit, I’m still learning this.
But I thought I’d share the 5 ways I’ve carved more time in my schedule, in the hopes that they help you do the same!
1. Look at how you’re currently spending your time.
First, you’ve gotta figure out why you don’t have time for yourself. Are you doing things each day that are just wasting your time? Do you check your email 100 times a day or spend hours mindlessly scrolling through social media? Sometimes the solution is as simple as cutting the fat from your daily routine. Stop doing things you don’t need to do once in a while and spend that time on yourself instead.
2. Utilize every moment you have.
One way to create some relaxing time throughout the day is to use every spare moment. If you have a long bus ride to work, listen to music on your phone, read, or do something else you enjoy. When you’re doing chores, focus yourself and get centered. Use your break at work to go for a walk, meditate, or pamper yourself.
3. Create a small daily ritual.
If you’re really pressed for time, creating your own thing that you do every day. This can be taking a relaxing bath every day instead of a rushed shower, waking up 30 minutes before the rest of your family to enjoy your coffee and a book in solitude, taking a leisurely walk before bed every night. Choose something that you know will help you relax and unwind by yourself.
4. Delegate your responsibilities, if you can.
Try to delegate tasks if you need time for yourself. Ask someone to babysit for a night. Ask a family member, friend, or colleague to take something else off of your plate. Even something simple like ordering takeout (if that’s something you don’t normally do) can free up an hour for you to relax.
5. Just say “no” sometimes.
To be perfectly honest with you, this is one thing I have SO much trouble with. I mean, I’m getting better at it, but still. It’s okay to say no to people sometimes – you shouldn’t feel guilty. I have a hard time with conflict or letting people down, but you’ve gotta do what’s best for YOU sometimes. So clear things off your schedule that you don’t need to or want to do, and say no to commitments when you really need time to yourself to unwind.
Related Reading: 5 Tips to Help You Stop Being a People-Pleaser
Question: What’s your best tip for finding “me-time” in a busy schedule?