Sometimes we get so comfortable in our relationships that it seems like we kind of forget that our significant other should be regularly shown how important they are to us.
We respect and love our men – and women – right? So how can we show them how much they mean to us, and how much we appreciate them?
Here are (some) ways that you can. These are ways that I show my husband that I still think he’s awesome and I appreciate everything that he does for me!
– Show an interest in his hobbies (or give him time to do them alone)
It seems like so many men get dragged into doing what their wife wants to do (cooking classes, shopping, picking out paint colors for that room you’re remodeling, etc.) but it’s important that wives make sure that their husbands get to do what they enjoy once in a while too! I go disc golfing with my husband all the time and I give him time to watch his sports or play his video games (when I’m not playing mine). Spend some time with him doing one of his hobbies, or give him time to do them alone once in a while.
– Give him time to relax
I know that when he gets home from work, you want to jump right into talking to him. I’m the same way! Instead, get him a drink and allow him to sit down and unwind. When my husband gets home, I hug him and then give him time to change his clothes and relax before I bombard him. These first few minutes when he gets home usually set the tone for the rest of the evening – and this will make your evening a whole lot more pleasant!
– Compliment him
Tell him how handsome he is, tell him how funny he is, tell him how much you love his personality. Compliment him on whatever you want, but compliment him regularly. Is he insecure about anything? Let him know that he doesn’t need to be. (Usually) compliments from your significant other mean the most.
– Give him a massage
In my experience, guys love their relaxation time, and what better way to relax than with a massage? When he gets home from work, give him a massage or scratch his back – and thank him for all that he does for you, and all that he does to support the family. He will love you for it, and he might even return the favor! 🙂
– Email or text him
Send him an email or a text while he’s at work. Tell him how much you love him and how much he means to you. It will be a lovely surprise for him to read while he’s working! Sometimes I “spam” my husband with cute texts while he’s at work and it always cheers him up.
– Buy (or make him) a fun gift
Next time you go to the store, pick up his favorite candy or an item that you think he would enjoy and surprise him with it. Or better yet, make him something that you think he’d love. It will show him that you were thinking about him and it’ll make him happy. Who doesn’t love surprise gifts?
– Tell him you’re proud of him (regularly!)
Express to him how proud you are of him, for all that he does and for all that he is. Give him specific reasons why. This always makes my husband feel good. Men love to hear that their women are proud of them. It’s important to them, so this will mean a lot to him!
– Brag about him
Brag about him – in front of him and when he’s not around. Tell your family and friends how great he is, how much he does for you, and how happy he makes you. He’ll love to hear you praising him in front of other people, and how highly you think of him. Don’t criticize him or talk badly about him in front of others – that’s not cool at all.
– Make a list
Make a list of specific things that you love and appreciate about him. If you want to get more creative with it, you could do this – I made something similar to this a few years back for my husband on Valentine’s Day and he loved it!
– Let the pesky things go
So what if he left his dirty clothes on the floor, or didn’t put the toilet seat down, or whatever else he does that might bother you? These things are so unimportant, there’s no need to nag him for them. I know they bother you but don’t constantly complain about them. Try not to point out everything that he does wrong. Instead, try to let him know that you appreciate the good things he does.
– Do little things for him, always
You probably already do this, but in case you don’t: try to do little things for him, just because. Bring him breakfast in bed, refill his drinks without being asked, let him sleep in, let him decide what movies to watch, etc. I always try to do things like this for my husband and he loves it. Sometimes, it’s the little things in life!
– Be careful and kind with your words
Don’t belittle him or insult him. Be careful about doing it unintentionally, too. Sometimes we don’t realize how important it is to men that their wives (or girlfriends, etc.) think highly of them. Choose your words wisely and make sure that you try to only speak to him positively and lovingly. Also, never bring up his insecurities in order to make him feel bad – that’s just mean and you’d hate it if he did that to you.
– Write him love notes
Sneak love notes in his lunchbox or pockets so he can read them at work. Tell him how much you love him and can’t wait to see him that night. I know this one seems corny but it works! I’ve done this a few times with my husband – writing cheesy love notes on napkins in his lunchbox – and he always texts me when he finds them, telling me how happy it makes him. It’ll brighten up his day!
– Put an effort into your appearance
I know he’ll love you anyway, but don’t let yourself go completely. Take care of yourself and your appearance. Don’t frump it up all the time. First of all, men are visual creatures. Second (and more importantly) it shows your husband – and others – that you value and respect yourself enough to put an effort into the way you look. And it tells your husband that you care about him enough that you still want to look good for him. Even though we all know that you look good anyway! 🙂
– Be his cheerleader
Support him in all of his goals, dreams, and plans for the future. After all, he’s going after what he wants in life for the both of you. Don’t stop him from doing things that are important to him, and always cheer him on. Don’t be negative or discouraging and even if he fails, let him know that you’re proud of him for trying. Remember that it’s not him vs. you; you guys are a team!
How do you show your significant other that you appreciate them? Leave a comment below!