The biggest thing that I’ve had to struggle with as a blogger is my fear of putting myself “out there” in the world, or on the internet.
I’ve always felt this drive to create things – to write, to draw, or whatever else. But I have this huge fear of sharing those things with others. This fear of judgment and self-promotion. What if people don’t like me? What if people make fun of me? What if I’m not good enough?
This is a fear that I’ve sort of overcome – I mean, I wouldn’t be blogging if I hadn’t. But there are still things that I’m scared to share, scared to talk about, and scared to create.
Putting your ideas out there for other people to look at and judge can be terrifying. But it’s not all about squashing that fear. Sometimes, you have to figure out ways to feel the fear but do it anyway.It's not all about squashing that fear. Sometimes, you have to figure out ways to feel the fear but do it anyway. Click To Tweet
So, in case any of you struggle with the same fear, I thought I’d share this post on how to overcome your fear of putting yourself out there!
Figure out what your real fear is.
The first step toward overcoming most fears is figuring out the root of the fear. Are you scared to put yourself out there because you’re scared of rejection? Are you scared of judgment from others? Are you scared of being vulnerable? You can figure out this fear by picturing the worst case scenario in your mind. What do you think is the worst thing that could happen? Is it that someone might laugh at you? If that happens, is it really that big of a deal?
Once you’ve identified the underlying fear, you can make a plan to overcome that specific fear. What would you do if that worst case scenario happened? What are the odds of it actually happening? You can even make a plan for the worst. Or maybe you’ll just realize how silly the fear is and move on!
Look at things a different way.
Shifting your mindset about your fears is another great way to overcome them. Instead of thinking about your fear and how scary it is to expose your ideas to the world, think about it a different way. If you’re trying to start a business, think of it as helping a bunch of people with a problem. Think about all of the people that will benefit from your skills and ideas.
Re-framing our thoughts about our fears can give us motivation and confidence to go through with things. The world needs you!
Let go of your perfectionism.
Perfectionism can get in the way of so many things, including putting yourself out there. Don’t wait for the perfect time, don’t wait for the perfect product, don’t wait for the perfect idea, and don’t wait for the perfect skill level. There’s no such thing as perfection – period.
A lot of times, perfectionism comes from a need for control, but we aren’t truly in control of anything. Waiting for perfection is honestly just wasting precious time. Instead, go with something that’s good enough.
I don’t know if it really takes 10,000 hours of practice to master a skill, but I do know that practice is important. Creating art, building a business, blogging: it all takes practice. So whether you’re writing, painting, or singing – make sure that you’re practicing your skill enough.
Make sure you’re prepared.
Whether you’re putting yourself out there with a business, a blog, or just sharing your work with others, it helps to make sure that you’re prepared. If you’re starting a blog, make sure you have a solid website design, some blog posts prepared, social media set up, and so on. If you’re starting a business, make sure you know exactly what you have to offer and why people want it. Be prepared to be able to answer any questions that people may ask.
Being properly prepared will naturally help you feel more confident in what you’re doing. This way, nothing can catch you off guard or knock you off your game.
Find a role model.
Having a good role model or someone to look up to is always a good idea. Find someone who is where you want to be and learn from them. Figure out how you can get to where they are. I’m not saying to copy everything that they’re doing, but admiring someone and being inspired by them can definitely go a long way. Don’t be afraid to ask them questions either!
I’ve had many new bloggers ask me for advice or reach out to me with questions and I’m always happy to help. I know how intimidating it can feel when you’re just starting out at something and having someone to guide you can make a big difference.
Just let go.
Sometimes the best way to overcome a fear is to just let go and jump right in. The more you face the fear, the smaller it will become. The more you put yourself out there, the easier and more natural it will feel. It will start to lose power over you and you’ll grow that much more because of it. The first step is always the biggest step to take, but it’s also the most important.
That’s what I did when I started this blog. I was honestly terrified, but I just hit publish on the first post and didn’t look back. And if I hadn’t, who knows if I would’ve ever done it? I might still be sitting around, scared to take the first step. So maybe it’s just time for you to let go and put yourself out there, whether you’re afraid or not.