We all find it pretty easy to love others but when it comes to loving ourselves, it can be tougher. Honestly, we can be pretty harsh to ourselves. We hold ourselves to unreasonably high standards that we don’t hold anyone else to. When we mess up or make mistakes, we find it much more difficult to forgive ourselves. It can be just plain hard to learn to love ourselves sometimes.
But no matter what’s holding you back from self-love, there are definitely ways that you can start loving yourself more. And it’s time to love yourself more now!
Today I’m sharing 11 ways to love yourself more everyday. Let’s get into it!
1- Accept that you’re imperfect.
You don’t have to try to be perfect and you should forgive yourself for not being perfect. Perfection is an impossible and unrealistic standard to try to live up to. No human is perfect, and that’s okay. We make mistakes, we mess up, we fail, and we have flaws. That’s how life is. The sooner you accept that, the happier you’ll be and the easier it will be to love and accept yourself – imperfections and all.
2- Say “no” when you need to.
If you have trouble saying “no” to people when you need or want to, it’s safe to say that you probably struggle with self-love as well. So many of us put pressure on ourselves to do things that we can’t or don’t want to do, all in the name of people-pleasing. This can cause problems when it comes to respecting ourselves the way we deserve to. So, if you want to love yourself more, you should really learn to say “no” when the time comes. This can free you up to say “yes” to things that you want, to value yourself more, and it could even cause others to respect you more. You’re important, too!
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3- Step out of your comfort zone.
Some of the most important lessons and best memories in life come from outside of our comfort zone. Stepping outside of your comfort zone can be scary, but it’s a great thing to do anyway. It can change you and your life for the better, it can help you conquer your fears, it can build up your confidence and teach you new things about yourself. As long as you’re doing it in a healthy way, only good things can happen!
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4- Cut ties with negative people.
It’s much easier to love yourself when you’re surrounded by loving people. I’ve always said that negative people can literally suck the positivity out of you. So if you’re always around people who make you feel bad about yourself, or just bad in general, it’s time to consider to cut ties with them. You’re an amazing person and you shouldn’t waste your time on people who don’t deserve it – especially if they make you feel bad about yourself. This isn’t about being mean, it’s about protecting yourself.
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5- Take care of yourself.
Proper self-care can do wonders for your mental health, your physical health, and your self-love. Pay attention to what your body wants and needs, do things that make you happy, and give yourself a break when you need it. Treat yourself the way that you would treat a loved one. Meet all of your needs in mind, body, and soul. Neglecting your self-care needs is definitely not going to help you love yourself more!
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6- Shower yourself in compliments.
If you don’t love yourself, it’s safe to say that you probably experience some level of negative self-talk. The insults that you casually throw at yourself do so much to harm your confidence and mental health. If you wouldn’t say something to a loved one, you shouldn’t say it to yourself. I mean, you want to love yourself too, don’t you? Instead, shower yourself in compliments. Think about the things you love yourself and replace the negative self-talk with these positives.
7- Let go of the past.
It’s so hard to move forward in life when you’re holding onto baggage from the past. Whether it’s past hurt, past mistakes, regrets, or anything else – you need to let it go and move on. We can’t change the past and we can’t take things back. All we can do is learn from the past and use the lessons to improve our future. So whether you need to forgive yourself, forgive someone else, or heal from an old wound, you should take the steps to do it now. It will make it so much easier to love yourself and look forward to the future!
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8- Stop caring what other people think.
One huge step toward loving yourself is to stop caring what other people think. Don’t look to an outside source for your feelings of self-worth; look inside yourself. Do what makes you happy and don’t let negative opinions hold you back. If someone is holding you back, don’t let them. Be true to yourself and the right people will come into your life. This will help you go further in life, feel happier, and be more confident. You can’t be fully free to be your true self if you’re too worried about what people might think of you.
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9- Maintain healthy boundaries.
Having healthy boundaries in your relationships is a good thing. It shows that you respect yourself and you have expectations for how you allow people to treat you. It can do a lot to help you stand up for yourself and love yourself more. It also allows you to be yourself, have space when you need it, and it gives you room to breathe. So make sure the people in your life know and respect your boundaries.
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10- Don’t compare yourself to others.
You don’t need me to tell you how much unhealthy comparison can damage your self-esteem, right? I feel like everyone has struggled with this to some degree or another, and it can totally hold you back from self-love. Comparison can steal our joy and make us feel like we’re not as good as other people, even though that’s not true. If you have a toxic comparison habit, it’s time to change it now so you can learn to be happy with what you have and who you are.
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11- Celebrate who you are.
When I lacked self-love, I was honestly mean to myself. I would beat myself up over every little thing that I did wrong. I was very hard on myself if I wasn’t good at something or if I lacked something. This is such harmful behavior, though. If you want to learn to love yourself, you should celebrate who you are and what you do. Instead of pointing out every little thing that you do wrong, start to pay attention to the things that you do right and the things that you do well. Celebrate tiny victories and you’ll start to love yourself much more.
Are you ready to truly love and accept yourself?
To learn more about how you can truly love and accept yourself, you should check out my new book “Love Yourself: A Journey of Self-Care, Self-Acceptance, and Total Self-Love“! You can get it in Kindle, paperback, or PDF form!