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If you’re reading this right now, you probably know what a big fan of self-improvement that I am. I mean, it’s pretty much the central focus of this blog. And I’ve talked before in the past about why I think self-improvement is so important, which you can read right here. It can literally transform your life and create lasting happiness.
It can be so easy to get caught up in the day to day shuffle of life and end up like a hamster in a wheel – running and running, but not really going anywhere. But I believe that one of our purposes in life is to continuously grow and become a better person. It’s impossible to reach perfection, but we can still try to improve ourselves and our circumstances.
I’m going to be honest here: there’s a lot of fluff out there that won’t help you in terms of self-improvement. There are books and websites that promise you amazing results without really putting any effort into making changes. But that’s not what self-improvement really is. You have to actually work toward it, and it can take A LOT of work.
The good news is that there are also so many tools and resources to help you along your journey of self-improvement. I started this blog as a resource for women who may need it. I love to share my experiences, lessons, and tips for self-improvement as I learn along the way.
But what if you’re new to the whole idea of self-improvement and don’t know where to start?
Well if you don’t know where to start, you’re in luck. Today I wanted to share my beginner’s guide to self-improvement and tips for how to get started!
5 steps toward getting started:
– Step 1: Evaluate the areas of your life.
When you’re getting started with self-improvement, it’s obviously helpful to know what exactly you’d like to work toward improving. So, it’s a good idea to take a look at the different areas of your life and think about how you’re doing in them. Rate each area on a scale of 1-10 and see how you’re doing. Here are some different areas to think about:
- Physical health
- Mental health
– Step 2: Set one (or maybe a few) goals.
In my opinion, setting goals is the most effective way to improve anything in your life. Seriously. Simply setting a goal and committing to it can do wonders in terms of transforming anything. Goals are the basis of a self-improvement plan.
If you’re going to set goals, you should write down on paper exactly what you want to achieve. Be specific about it. Then, set a deadline for achieving it. Maybe it’s going to be a yearly goal, or maybe you can achieve it in three months. Just write down when you want it to be done by. Next, make a list of everything that you’re going to have to do to achieve the goal so you know exactly what steps you need to take.
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– Step 3: Work at it every. single. day.
If you want to make it significantly easier to achieve your goals and your self-improvement, you’re going to want to work at it every single day. If you’ve broken down your goal down into every single step you’re going to have to take to get there, then you can work toward it every day.
If you make daily to-do lists or use a daily planner (which you should), then try to schedule something in every day that will take you a step closer to reaching your goals. By planning for it and taking action daily, you’re guaranteed to reach your goals at some point.
– Step 4: Review your goals every week.
If you don’t think about your goals or check in on your progress, then you probably won’t make them happen. It’s important to keep track of them and take note of your progress toward them. I like to review my goals every Sunday when I’m making my plans for the upcoming week. I just look at my list of to-dos and see how I did during the previous week.
This helps you keep them in your mind, so you’re motivated to keep going and holds you accountable, so you’re more likely to actually work toward them. It also gives you a chance to figure out what you’re going to do in the upcoming week to work toward them.
– Step 5: Reward yourself.
Setting and achieving goals can actually be a lot of fun! First of all, it’s highly satisfying to achieve what you’re setting out to do because of your own hard work. And second, you should always reward yourself for achieving big steps toward your goals! I believe that rewards are one of the biggest motivators for getting stuff done.
Achievement is a reward in itself, but additional rewards help a lot too – as long as the rewards aren’t bad for you. So, set yourself certain milestones for the progress you make on your goals and give yourself a reward each time you hit one.
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Important things to keep in mind:
– Work on your habits.
Humans really are creatures of habit. So much of what we do is dependent on the habits we’ve formed, whether they were formed intentionally or not. Our habits are important when it comes to what we’re achieving and how our lives are going. So it’s important to form good habits and break bad ones. Here’s a helpful post from Develop Good Habits about how to form a new habit in 8 easy steps.
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– Take responsibility for yourself.
When something goes wrong or someone does something to hurt us, it’s so easy to fall into a victim mentality. It’s so easy to point point the finger at someone, blame something else and become a victim in our own lives. But it’s not helpful and it’s not a healthy way to live. If you want things to change and improve, you have to take responsibility for yourself and your life. Learn from your struggles and use them as lessons and motivation to move forward from them.
– Don’t compare yourself to others.
Comparing yourself to others in an unhealthy way is one of the quickest ways to not only destroy your happiness, but destroy your progress as well. Everyone is in a different season and on a different journey of life. If you want to become your best self, stay in your own lane. The only person you should be comparing yourself to is yourself and the person you were yesterday.
– Step out of your comfort zone.
Stepping out of your comfort zone is another big thing that can help you grow so much. It can help you improve, conquer your fears, and open you up to new opportunities. It also helps you avoid getting stuck in a rut. So if there’s something you want to go after but you’re too scared, go after it anyway. You never know what amazing things might pass you by when you refuse to step out of your comfort zone!
– Develop the right mindset.
I really believe that our mindsets play a big role in our success. If you want to do anything in life, the first step is believing that you actually CAN do that thing. Be realistic, but stay positive. Being pessimistic can derail your plans and stop you from achieving anything. So remember to keep an open mind, try to stay positive, and believe in yourself.
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– Focus on progress, not perfection.
It’s impossible for humans to reach perfection. Perfectionism is not only setting an unrealistic expectation for yourself, but it can also seriously get in the way of anything you’re trying to do. Instead, focus on your progress. Starting small and even taking baby steps along the way will add up to big results. Just focus on trying to be better than you were before, but don’t aim for being perfect.
– Self-care is important too.
I know that working toward your goals and improving yourself is a good thing, and it can actually be a lot of fun. But remember your self-care too. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Remember to take a break if and when you need to. If you don’t, you’ll end up getting burned out or giving up completely. Self-improvement is a good thing, but you’re more important!
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Some of my favorite tools for self-improvement:
Journaling is great for our mental health, our mood, organization, goals, and much more. You can use a journal to track your goals, process your thoughts, get to know yourself better, and so much more. I would say that a journal is one of the most helpful tools for self-improvement. If you want to learn more about journals and how to start one, check out this post here.
Books might be the MOST helpful tool for self-improvement. They’re an inexpensive way to learn an in-depth lesson on pretty much anything you’d like to improve. I read a lot and I talk a lot about books here on the blog. I’ve even shared some of my favorite self-improvement books and my favorite books on self-love. You can even add me on Goodreads if you’d like to always see what I’m reading! 😉
Blogs are another great tool to keep you learning and improving. There are tons of blogs out there that talk about self-improvement – like this one! Here are a few of my favorite blogs that can help with self-improvement:
– Vision boards.
I love vision boards! They’re so helpful when it comes to inspiring us to reach our goals. They give us a clear view of what we want, they motivate us to go after it, and they put is into a more positive mindset. If you’d like to read a more in-depth post about vision boards and how to create one, check out this post.
I probably wouldn’t get nearly as much done if it wasn’t for my planner. Keeping a daily planner helps you make sure that you’re getting everything done that you need or want to. It also just helps me stay more organized and keep everything in one place. I keep a physical planner and a digital one. I’ve tried MANY different planners, but here are my top 3 favorites:
There are also tons of courses out there to help with whatever you’re trying to improve, from learning to paint to setting better habits. I 100% recommend Skillshare if you’re looking to take an online course. I’ve taken many courses from Skillshare on things from productivity to hand lettering. You can get a free membership, or a premium membership which allows you to take unlimited courses for just $15/month. If you sign up with this link, you can get 2 months of their premium membership for free!
There are tons of apps out there for pretty much anything, including self-improvement. My favorite one is probably Remente. Remente is like an all-in-one self-improvement app. You can create step-by-step goal plans, keep track of your mood, find resources to help you with your goals, see how you think your life is going in each area, and more. It’s a free app, but you can upgrade it for even more features.
TED is one of my favorite websites. You can watch free, informative videos by experts on so many different topics. You can even sign up for TED Recommends to get TED Talks picked just for you, based on your interests. The topics range from business to self-improvement to entertainment, and more.
– Freebie library.
I also just had to let you know that if you sign up for my newsletter, you can get access to my freebie library full of free resources! There are vision board worksheets, journaling prompts, planners, and more. You can sign up right here or with the form below!
What’s your best self-improvement tip? Let me know in the comments!