I’m all about living a life true to yourself and your purpose. I believe that finding ways to be your authentic self and make yourself happy is so important!
There are times where being happy seems out of reach, though. There are times where it just seems like our lives are too full of stress, self-pity, comparison, burnout, and other forms of negativity. I think we can all relate to that!
BUT living a happy life is definitely within reach for everyone, no matter what. Life is truly what you make it and there are things you can do (or stop doing) to make yourself happier. And that’s what I want to talk about today!
Here are 15 simple things to stop doing if you want to feel happier.
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1- Not taking action on what you want.
Setting goals is a good thing. So is creating vision boards and learning new things. But nothing is as helpful as actually taking action toward what you want. If you want to switch careers, lose weight, start a business, or whatever else you want, you have to actually take action. If you’re waiting for the right time or the perfect moment, stop. There’s rarely a perfect moment for anything. It’s best to take the first step now.
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2- Being chronically negative.
This one makes a lot of sense, right? If you’re constantly negative, constantly complaining, and never trying to see the positive then you’re definitely going to be very unhappy. I know that sometimes it’s hard to stay positive, but it can do wonders in terms of making you happier. The more you try to be positive, the easier it’ll be to stay positive. So instead of complaining and overthinking the bad things, try to do something to change them and see the bright side of things. The power of positivity is very real, I promise.
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3- Ignoring your own needs.
Taking care of others is a great thing, and it’s so important. But it’s also important to make sure that you’re caring for yourself as well. Ignoring your own needs can cause many problems. If you want to be truly happy, you’ve got to make self-care a priority and take time for yourself if and when you need it. Take care of your mind, your body, and your soul. You won’t just be happier, but you’ll be mentally and physically healthier as well.
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4- Living in the past or future.
We all know that dwelling on the past and holding onto old pain isn’t a good thing. It can cause a lot of sadness but it’s also just pointless. The past is over and there’s nothing we can do to change it. So if you want to be happy, you’ve got to let it go.
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Along those same lines, living in the future isn’t a good thing either. Whether you’re constantly telling yourself you’ll be happy as soon as this or that happens or you’re constantly feeling stress about the future, it’s not helpful. Yes, it’s a good thing to think about what goals and dreams you have for the future but it’s also important to focus on the here-and-now if you want to be truly happy.
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5- Trying to fix others.
Helping others is a good thing and I believe that it’s even part of our responsibility as humans. But that’s different than what I’m talking about here, which is fixing people. It’s not your responsibility or place to fix other people. If someone wants to change, then they’ll ask for help. But people can’t change or improve unless they want to and until they are ready. So if you want to make yourself and them happy, don’t try to fix others. Focus that energy on improving yourself instead.
6- Being “so busy” all the time.
Being busy is a badge of honor these days. For some reason, it’s seen as a sign of success and something people strive for. I really don’t know why, though. It’s easy to be busy with things that aren’t actually important or helpful. And it’s easy to fall into a state of burnout because of all that busy-ness. Being super busy means you don’t have enough time for the people and activities that you love. It also makes it harder to live consciously and intentionally. I know that there are times where we can’t help how busy we are, but a lot of times it’s unnecessary. So if you want to be happier but you’re just so busy all the time, you might want to consider taking some things off of your plate and freeing up some time for the things that are more important to you.
7- Thinking of yourself as a victim.
Constantly playing the victim in your own life will make you feel perpetually unhappy. Blaming others for your problems leaves you feeling powerless to change anything. Like I always say, everyone has been screwed over by others. Maybe someone did cause the problems that you’re facing, but you’re responsible for your life and accepting that can be empowering. See yourself as the hero and fix your situation instead of wallowing in self-pity as a victim. You’ll feel SO much happier!
8- Seeking validation from others.
In my opinion, being your true self is one of the biggest ways to live a happier and more fulfilling life. Looking to others for feelings of validation will probably leave you feeling empty and depressed. Don’t let others determine your sense of self-worth. Be yourself and the people who matter will accept you for who you are. Only YOU can truly decide who you are and what you’re worth.
9- Being stuck in your comfort zone.
Almost none of the best things in life come easy, and so many of them come from outside of our comfort zones. Stepping outside of your comfort zone is a good thing. It helps you learn, grow, and improve. It can be so hard, but it will make you so happy in the long run. Don’t let fear hold you back from good things because it’s not only not good for you, but it can make you very unhappy as well.
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10- Being selfish.
I know that I’m always talking about how important it is to focus on yourself, care for yourself, and love yourself. But I’m also always pointing out that you should also love and care for others. Self-love and selfishness do NOT go hand-in-hand. When you’re selfish, you’re probably making everyone pretty unhappy. Take the time to focus on helping others when you can. I know I probably don’t need to say this, but just be a good person. I believe that what goes around comes around. Being generous – being just plain nice, even – is seriously one of the biggest things you can do to improve your happiness and everyone else’s. The world could use more love and generosity!
11- Obsessing over social media.
Don’t get me wrong, I love social media. It’s an important part of my job and I just love connecting with others. But it can be so easy to get addicted and end up spending hours at a time just scrolling and scrolling. But so much research has connected social media use with depression. Not only that, but it can also lead to feelings of envy and jealousy. Spending hours a day scrolling through the highlight reel of other people’s lives can quickly lead you to feel more unhappy with your own. So if you want to be truly happy, you’ve got to limit your time on social media and stop obsessing over it.
12- Neglecting the people and things you love.
In today’s world, it gets easier and easier to forget about face-to-face connection with those we love. It also gets easier to neglect our hobbies and passions. Don’t get so caught up in the unimportant things that you neglect the important people and the things that make you happy. Time is precious and wasting it on things that don’t really matter can lead us to feel empty and unhappy.
13- Trying to control everything.
Trying to control things that are out of your control is one of the quickest ways to feel frustrated and unhappy. We can’t control most things in life – whether you’re trying to control what life throws your way or trying to control other people. Life is unpredictable. All you can do is control yourself and how you act. You can make plans for your life, but you have to leave room for the unexpected.
14- Ignoring your body.
How your body feels is a good indicator of not only your health, but your happiness as well. Make sure that you’re getting enough rest, enough water, enough nutrition, and enough exercise. We all know how important this is, but still so many of us ignore it. Make sure that you’re giving your body everything it needs. Our bodies are beautiful and they do so much for us, so we need to take care of them properly. That way, we’ll feel happier and have more energy.
15- Living mindlessly.
Before I started setting goals and living with purpose, I felt so unhappy and my life even felt pointless. Living mindlessly, without goals or something to work toward, can make it hard to be happy. Set yourself goals, live purposefully, and do what brings you joy. This will obviously help you feel happier and improve the quality of your life drastically.
Is there anything that you’d like to stop doing so you can feel happier?